So... I'm 20 years old and having a baby. Hell, I'm 20 and I'm married! How does this seemingly sticky situation feel? Usually this isn't an ideal situation for people my age. I can't even legally drink yet but I can parent a child. Now to pose the question... what to people (in general) think of that?
There are a number of things an outsider would think of our situation. I know I never exactly thought highly of young people having kids, just because they may or may not be mature enough to handle children. They obviously can't make enough money to support someone else, and they obviously don't know how to take care of themselves, let alone another human being. That's how I used to think a long time ago. I mean no offense to anybody, of course. Clearly, this isn't the case anymore. There is nothing like a little enlightenment. I'm happy where I am. So is my wife. We live within our means, which means we will have enough money to raise our daughter. We are responsible with our money, I have a great job (that I enjoy) and we have a damned nice place for our age, which we pay for ourselves.
Was this planned? Of course not! We found out she was pregnant less than a week after we moved out... and got married 3 months later. But this isn't about that. We all know how "getting pregnant" happened.
I can't help but feel that some people look down on us, especially me because it's always the guy's "fault". That doesn't matter either. This will present many obstacles for us in the future as it would anyone at any age, actually. Quite honestly, I would rather have my kids when I'm young so I'm not too old when they get to be 18. I'll be 38. I will still have a bit of life ahead of me, as will Courtney. We will be able to (hopefully) see our grand kids grow up. By no means has having a baby young hinder our lives ahead of us. I still have room to grow, as does Courtney. I know somebody that had a baby at my age and he is now a very successful producer. Not only with money, but he has an excellent family. I could only hope to live up to that. In a year or so I'll probably tell you that life cannot be lived without a child.